I have been enjoying this week very much. I find myself fully revitalized on my MKE mission, I have some time and space to focus the way I want to on the exercises, the readings, and the always challenging mental diet.
The MKE exercises have been amazing, great tools, brain trainers, to keep my own goals and behaviors in my mind, with the use of repetetive readings, and associations with shapes, colours and index cards. Now they are pretty much habits, good habits……But I must say, this shift into looking for the virtues in other people’s actions has been the eye opener that was promised. The Franklin makeover is really resonating with me, as a practical application of all that we have been learning.
This week of kindness has been particularly powerful. Firstly reading all the RAKs on the kindness page has been wonderful, people are getting into it, and myself too, I have been visiting and posting kindness’ every day. It has inspired me to think of new ways to be kind, and notice kindness all around me.
All of a sudden I am having some real success with the mental diet…I don’t think I’ve made it a whole day yet, but really close…a very interesting thing happened to me on the way to work the other day. Myself and 3 crew mates travel by truck for three hours to get to our remote work site on the west coast or Vancouver island. During the trip my MKE course came up. We had a laugh when I started saying all the acronyms we use in the course, because we have an incredible amount of them in the coast guard as well. I wasn’t nervous of talking about it with the boys, and they quickly saw my passion for the course.
I have often been a bit of a crusty sailor so to speak, with a sharp sarcastic wit, and for me to be attempting to be so kind and gentle and to better myself in such ways took them a little bit by surprise. Before our truck ride was over we were already catching each other voicing negative thoughts, we were reminding each other already to maintain our PMA( positive mental attitude). Being government workers it is very easy to complain and whine about our system and our management approach and the ‘waste of money and resources and a whole host of other issues. These can keep you in a negative mindset. We did however remind ourselves just how good our jobs are, and how fortunate we are to have them and this became the new focus. As the week has progressed it hasn’t gone away, each day we are choosing as a group to focus on positive ideals and positive attitudes about our situation, anytime one of us says something noticeably negative not just me but the other boys would say” hey where is your PMA” this made me chuckle and warm my heart. Just today as I was in my room one of my crewmates was whistling Zippity Doo Dah what a wonderful day while getting his laundry, I came out of my room and said wow good song buddy and he replied “well I’m just keeping up my PMA” again I laughed this time out loud.
Kindness is contagious, once you address the concept and bring it out in the open, people naturally want to be kind, it’s easy for us, somehow we have been trained to complain and see the negative side of people and situations . When you start looking for kindness and positivity you see kindness and positivity all around you , I didn’t think it would be this noticable when I began the makeover, but now I see it to be very true.
The mental diet seems to be taking care of itself when kindness is your focus. My humor has changed, my routines are changing, my willingness to do things for other people is expanding , knowing that helping others, is truly helping myself, is a wonderful feeling. I think every week is going to be kindness week in my world from now on, the feeling of excitement I’m getting to find ways to be more kind, and see it motivating others to be more kind, is very rewarding and inspiring, you could say its “Kindtagious”
I am grateful for all I have, and all I am learning. My future self is an amazing person, we are becoming good friends. …. Cheers.